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Luke 7:11-17

11 Soon afterward, Jesus went to a town called Nain, and his disciples and a large crowd went along with him. 12 As he approached the town gate, a dead person was being carried out—the only son of his mother, and she was a widow. And a large crowd from the town was with her.13 When the Lord saw her, his heart went out to her and he said, “Don’t cry.”

14 Then he went up and touched the bier they were carrying him on, and the bearers stood still. He said, “Young man, I say to you, get up!” 15 The dead man sat up and began to talk, and Jesus gave him back to his mother.

16 They were all filled with awe and praised God. “A great prophet has appeared among us,” they said. “God has come to help his people.”17 This news about Jesus spread throughout Judea and the surrounding country.

There is one phrase that really jumps out at me: When the Lord saw her, his heart went out to her and he said, “Don’t cry.” His heart went out to her! She did not approach Him, but when HE SAW HER His heart went out to her. Jesus has a heart for the widow. Jesus has a heart for the single mom. He knew her circumstances and He cared about her. He told her not to cry, revived her son and gave him back to his mother.

There have been many times in my journey as a single mom when Jesus has worked on my behalf before I prayed about the situation. There are times when I don’t think about praying for a specific situation and God works in that situation anyways. He does it because He loves me. He does it because He knows my heart. He does it because His heart goes out to those who are in need of a miracle.

There are so many single moms in the world, who are in need of a miracle. Are you one of them? Are you a paycheck away from becoming homeless? Are your kids heading down the wrong path? Are you simply overwhelmed and don’t know where to turn? Turn to the one whose heart goes out to you. Jesus can and will work a miracle in your situation. Why? Because He loves you and His heart goes out to you. You may feel that you are going to drown in your own tears, but hear the voice of our Savior. He is whispering to your heart, “Don’t cry.”

Whatever the circumstances of your life, know this single mom: Jesus has a heart for you and He is ready to perform a miracle in your life and the lives of your children. Dry your tears, hold your head up and trust in the miracle maker.


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Mark 4:40

He said to his disciples, “Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?”

I didn’t wake up one morning and decide that my life would be better as a single mom. I doubt that any of us was thrilled at the prospect of being a single mom, but that is where life has taken us and I for one was more than a little afraid. I was afraid of ending up homeless. I was afraid of losing my job, because my car broke down, again. I was afraid that I wouldn’t be a good enough mom. I was afraid that in my own messed up mental and emotional state that I would cause irreparable damage to my kids. I was afraid that I was in this single mom journey alone. I was scared and I felt like no one in the world cared if I failed.

It has not been easy. I still struggle paycheck to paycheck. In the effort of being transparent, 2015 was the first year I made $20,000.00. I live in poverty. I try to baby my car, because it seems to always be on the verge of breaking down. My kids are getting older and their lives are getting complicated, so I try to find the right words of wisdom to parent them by. My youngest is now 15 and I feel the nudging of the Holy Spirit calling me into a new season of life. Life as a single mom is a struggle. It has NEVER been easy. But, in that struggle I see the many ways that God has shown up as my heavenly Husband to provide for us and protect us. Even in the chaos, I see the blessings of God all around me and I am forever grateful that He has had mercy on this single mom.

I know that life as a single mom comes with a certain amount of fear. We are expected to provide and protect our children on our own. We look at families with two parents and think to ourselves, “how am I ever going to make this work?” You WILL make it work. We have too, because no one can do it for us. Our children depend on us to take care of them.

How can you make it work?

Trust the ONE who loves you. Trust the ONE who loves your children. Your heavenly Husband is waiting to take the burden off of your shoulders, if you will let Him. God can take those problems, those worries, those cares, those fears, that you have been carrying around and He will carry them for you. Trust Him to partner with you in this single mom life.

Psalm 34:4

I sought the Lord, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears.

If you have read any of my blog posts, you will see that worry is still something I struggle with. I am getting better at knowing what I can’t control and surrendering it to God. He is in control. He controls ALL things. Why worry about something that I can do nothing about? Sometimes, this is an hourly challenge; laying my worries and fears and the feet of the ONE who loves me. The peace I feel when I give it to God is immeasurable. Why do I insist on hanging onto something I can do nothing about? It just makes me crazy in the long run.

Have faith, single mom! Trust God in your struggle. Give the worries and fears to Him, even if it is minute by minute. Eventually, your faith will grow and you will begin to see that God IS faithful. My faith has grown. I am still a work in progress, but I have come a long way in the 16 years I have been a single mom.

My challenge to you: 

I want you to reflect on the question that Jesus asks His disciples, “Why are you so afraid?” I want you to list your fears, as a single mom, in a journal or a piece of paper and give them to God, one by one. Read the fear aloud and say, “I trust you, my heavenly Husband to take care of _________ and I surrender it to you.” If you would rather use your own words, go for it! The point is to let go of our fears and allow God to share the burden with us. He is our partner. A partner who will NEVER let us down.



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Psalm 17:8

Keep me as the apple of your eye;
    hide me in the shadow of your wings

Deuteronomy 32:10

In a desert land he found him,
    in a barren and howling waste.
He shielded him and cared for him;
    he guarded him as the apple of his eye,

Zechariah 2:8

For this is what the Lord Almighty says: “After the Glorious One has sent me against the nations that have plundered you—for whoever touches you touches the apple of his eye—”

I was devastated after my divorce. My husband had left me for another woman and I felt alone, angry and heart broken. For a few years, I agonized over the fact that no one seemed to “want” me. I saw other single women who had no problem finding men and I wondered what was wrong with me. I was at a single moms weekend in June of 2006 and Lori Little (21 Principles of a Healthy Single Mom) was there. I ordered her DVD set and went through each lesson many times over the next several months. In Principle #2 Identity, Lori tells us how God really feels about us. In this lesson, I learned that I am the apple of God’s eye. I am cherished by the Almighty God. WOW! These verses really started to make an impact on me and my heart started to heal from feeling like no one could ever love someone like me (a divorced, single mom with 5 kids). I came to realize that it didn’t matter what men thought about me, God loves me and you know what? Nothing else matters. Knowing that God loves me became enough for me. I am the apple of God’s eye, I don’t need a man to tell me that I am worthy of love. I know I am worthy of love!

Genesis 16:13-14

13 She gave this name to the Lord who spoke to her: “You are the God who sees me,” for she said, “I have now seen the One who sees me.”14 That is why the well was called Beer Lahai Roi[b]; it is still there, between Kadesh and Bered.

Hagar was a single mom. She had given Abram a son and now her mistress, Sarai despised her. Hagar got a raw deal. It was Sarai’s idea for Abram to sleep with Hagar and Hagar was simply doing what her mistress told her to do. Sarai thought she could build a family through Hagar, instead of trusting God, she made things worse and poor Hagar dealt with the fall-out. When Sarai started to mistreat her, Hagar left and God met her in the wilderness. God saw how Sarai treated her and had compassion on her. Hagar was the apple of God’s eye. Because of this incident with Hagar, God is called “El Roi- the One who sees me.”

The same El Roi who met Hagar in the wilderness is waiting to meet you in your heartache. El Roi (the God who sees me) is waiting to show you that you are the apple of His eye. He sees you in your pain. He sees how you try to fill the void with relationship after meaningless relationship. Our God is a compassionate God and He wants so much for you to know that YOU are the apple of His eye. If you are single right now, I want to challenge you to seek God first, before you jump into another relationship. Do your own research and find out what God says about YOU in the Bible. El Roi sees YOU and YOU are the apple of His eye!

I still struggle as a single mom, but I will be forever grateful to Lori Little for giving me the kick in the rear-end I needed to put God first in my life as a single mom. I highly recommend every single mom to read her book or buy the DVD series, 21 Principles of a Healthy Single Mom. I have both! To visit Lori’s website, click here and to buy the book from Amazon, click here.

God Bless you, single mom!

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My granddaughter Ava is three years old. She has been in a princess phase for over a year now and likes to put on “princess dresses,” put on make-up and become princess Ava. I try to tell her that she is beautiful just the way she is, but her reply is always the same, “I’m a princess, Nana.” Yes, she is a princess. She is my princess Ava, daughter of the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. Somehow, being a princess has become a negative thing in society. We associate being a princess with being a spoiled diva, or a bridezilla. I started thinking about the Disney princesses. They are not spoiled divas. They are women of character and, in a way, role models to girls Ava’s age. Below, I have listed five characteristics of a princess that are modeled by the Disney princesses:

  1. Courage– Mulan is a Chinese princess, who disguises herself as a man and takes her elderly father’s place in a time of war. Time and training make her a princess warrior and she is instrumental in helping her people win the war. Being a single mom can feel like you are in a war zone. The weight of the world is on your shoulders and one dropped ball can mean disaster. Single moms are courageous. Somehow, we manage to get things done and often alone. The saying is that it takes a village to raise a child. I know that many of you don’t have that village to give you encouragement and support. You keep going. Day after day, you keep going forward, often with no thanks or appreciation. This takes courage, single mom. YOU are a princess warrior!
  2. A Servant’s Heart– Cinderella has a true servant’s heart. When her evil stepmother and stepsisters make her do all the chores and treat her like a slave, she doesn’t complain. She does what is asked of her. Her heart aches, but still she doesn’t act out in anger. Cinderella continues to serve with a meekness of spirit and a servant’s heart. I have often felt like Cinderella in my single mom journey. As the single mom of five kids, 8 and under, I often felt like a slave. Trying to keep the house clean, just to have it look like a hurricane hit 10 minutes after the kids got home. I was judged because my house looked lived in and not like the cover of Good Housekeeping. Being a single mom means having a servant’s heart. It means serving our kids in love and knowing that we are shaping their character. It means not grumbling and griping about every little thing. It means cleaning up the spilled milk without making your child feel like a failure because it spilled. It means going to bed completely worn out from taking care of your kids. This too shall pass, single mom. The kids grow up and take on more responsibility. Be patient with your kids. Jesus, Himself, came to serve and not to be served (Matthew 20:28).
  3. Wisdom– Pocahontas and John Smith want to bring their two worlds together in peace. It doesn’t seem like it will ever happen. Pocahontas uses wisdom when she convinces her father to let John Smith go and to end the fighting between the two groups. She seeks guidance from Grandmother Willow and uses her wisdom to change her world for the better. Raising 5 kids, I have had many times when I needed to use wisdom to guide my kids in the right direction. Pocahontas sought guidance from Grandmother Willow, as I seek guidance from my heavenly Father. I have needed to use wisdom to keep the peace between my five strong-willed kids. I have needed wisdom in knowing how to guide them in becoming adults and dealing with adult issues. Single moms need to be wise. Wisdom comes from God. We need to seek guidance in every situation. We need to seek guidance before we make rash decisions in the heat of the moment. We have little ones depending on us to do what is right. That takes wisdom, single mom. If we want to change the world, it starts with our kids. We need to raise them, using the wisdom God gives us.
  4. Compassion– Belle is compassionate in her dealings with the beast. He terrifies her, but she compassionately nurses him back to health and treats him kindly, despite his appearance and his attitude. Being a single mom means being compassionate even when our kids are messy and cranky. We can’t always see what is going on beneath the surface of our kids attitudes, so we need to have compassion in order to find out what is really going on. Belle uncovered the gentle side of the beast because of her kindness and compassion. We can uncover the gentle side of our kids if we approach them with love and compassion.
  5. Hardworking– Tiana is a hardworking waitress who dreams of owning her own restaurant. Sound familiar, single mom? We work our fingers to the bone at outside jobs, go to school and take care of the household too. Hard work is what gets things done and bills paid. It seems like the work will never end, but it will. Never give up on your dreams. If you keep working, focused on what you want, your dreams will come true. Trust in God, the dream-giver.

You are a princess, single mom! You are a daughter of the King of Kings and Lord of Lords! Remember that a true princess is not a spoiled brat, who expects to be waited on, but a woman of strong character and who carries herself with integrity. Your children are watching. Be a role model that they can emulate. When tough times hit, remember your princess status and act with grace and dignity. Easier said than done, I know. I mess up more than I like to admit, but I do my best and that’s what counts. Call on our heavenly Father in the struggle and He will give you the strength to make it through. He sees your struggle and wants nothing more than to help you, His daughter.

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God is

It has been 15 years since my divorce. I am happy to say that I have grown in those years. I’m not perfect and I don’t always act like the “perfect” Christian woman. I am not the best mom, employee, ex-wife, daughter, or even the best nana. I am simply a woman doing my best. I am simply a single mom trying to raise my kids to love God and each other. It isn’t always easy. I sometimes feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders. There are times when I feel disconnected from God, abandoned to deal with life’s trials on my own. It is in those times that He shows up and shows me who He really is:

  1. Heavenly Husband (Isaiah 54:5)- In the first few years after my divorce, I threw quite a pity party for myself. Why did EVERYONE else have someone, but me? What was wrong with me? My husband didn’t want me after 7 1/2 years of marriage and no one else did either. God spoke to my heart and called me to Himself. I realized that there was not a man on this earth who could fill that hole in my heart. Only God could fill the empty hollows of my heart. It was at that time that I made a commitment to God. I made a commitment to only worry about growing in my relationship with Him, after all, this was the only relationship that really mattered. I have been faithful in that promise and God has been faithful as my Heavenly Husband. Don’t worry about finding your “soul mate” or “Mr. Right”. Don’t chase your tail, wasting your precious time on unworthy guys. The most important thing you can do is grow your relationship with God. Grow closer to God and then Mr. Right might find his way to your door or maybe God has simply called you to Himself.
  2. Provider (Matthew 6:26)- As my kids were growing up, I worked part-time jobs. I felt very strongly that my first job as a single mom was to be at home with my kids. In those years, God always provided. For years, when the kids were growing up, every time one of them would grow out of their clothes, some one would call with clothes that fit that child. Other times, bags would appear on the porch full of clothes that fit the child in need. We have never gone without our basic needs. I have struggled with keeping cars going, but God has always seen to it that we get from point A to point B. We have never been without food. Even at Christmas, we have had more than enough. I have always felt secure knowing that the God of ALL resources is looking out for me and my kids and will provide what we need. Take your needs to God and trust that He will provide for you. Worrying yourself sick is not doing you or your kids any good. Allow God to be God in your life. Remember, He has access to ALL the resources on earth and will use them to provide for you. Trust Him!
  3. Healer (Jeremiah 30:17)- The first few years after my divorce were hard. I was devastated. I sank into the pit of despair and could not see the light. It has taken some time, but God has healed me of the wounds. There are still times when things get to me. I am human and I have a sensitive heart. In those times, I feel the comforting arms of my God wrapped around me, letting me know that everything will be okay. I am okay. I can feel the emotion and then I let it go. The hurt and anger doesn’t have the hold on me as it once did. Healing is a process and can take years. Allow God to wrap you in His comforting arms. Allow Him to heal your broken heart. He is waiting single mom. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and open to the ONE who truly cares.
  4. Compassionate (Psalm 103:8)- Through the years I have felt like no one cares. I have reached out for help and was met by a slammed door. Even Christians can be judgemental and unwilling to help. When I felt like there was nowhere else to go God met me where I was. I didn’t have to bang the door down to get Him to help me. God in His compassion saw me and helped me. He saw me in my pain and came to me. He heard my cries for help and He answered my prayers. God is a God of compassion and He sees your tears. He hears your cries. He knows your pain. In His compassion, He will help you. When the people around us fail, God never will.
  5. Redeemer (Job 19:25)- MY REDEEMER LIVES!!! HIS NAME IS JESUS!!! God’s will is that we ALL be saved and that none should see the fires of Hell. Our ever loving and compassionate God sent His one and only Son to die a horrible death so that you and I should have eternal life with Him in Heaven. I can’t even imagine what it would feel like to lose a child. To have a child suffer and die would be beyond heartbreaking. If God is compassionate and is capable of loving us enough to allow His child to die for us, just imagine how heartbreaking it was for Him to allow His Son to suffer such cruelty. I don’t deserve God’s love. I don’t deserve His mercy. God didn’t care that we are and have always been an undeserving bunch of misfits. He chose to save us anyways. Why? He loves us that much. GOD LOVES YOU SINGLE MOM!!! Open your heart and embrace the love that He freely gives.

If you are a single mom and are struggling in this season of your life, I am here for you. Let me know how I can pray for you. You are not alone. We are in this together!

God loves you, single mom and so do I!

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saint elizabeth of hungary

Saint Elizabeth of Hungary (1207-1231) was born into royalty. She was engaged at the age of 4 to the eldest son of Landgrave Hermann I of Thuringia. She was moved into the castle at Thuringia at a very young age to be raised with her betrothed. Elizabeth grew into a young woman of strong religious beliefs and often suffered the hostility of those who felt judged of their own sinful natures.

In 1216, Elizabeth’s betrothed died and she was immediately betrothed to the Landgraves other son, Ludwig. In 1221, Elizabeth and Ludwig were married. He was 21 and she was only 14. Ludwig was always a loving husband and protected Elizabeth, giving her the religious freedom she needed to worship and perform acts of charity.

At the age of 19, Elizabeth built a hospital below the castle. She was always about the business of caring for the poor and lost.

In 1227, Elizabeth received the news that Ludwig had died from disease while away on a crusade. She had just given birth to their third child. Elizabeth turned fully to God and made a vow of chastity. In 1228, she took the vows of a nun of the Third Order of Saint Francis.

Elizabeth was under the supervision of a spiritual director who was harsh and often disciplined her in harsh ways. He beat her and ordered her children sent away.

I can only imagine her heartache at having her children sent away from her. She made arrangements for her children, renounced the world and lived the rest of her short life caring for the sick and poor in the hospital that she had built. She was only 24 when she died.

Although, Saint Elizabeth did not raise her children after the death of Ludwig, she was a single mom and loved her children dearly. Would she have given up her children on her own? I would say no. We have to remember that she was a young woman, alone in a tough world. Not unlike what many of us, as single moms, live through now.

Her children grew up to be leaders in their own right. I am sure that had to do with her own character. If you have suffered in your role as a single mom, know that you are not alone. There are single moms throughout history who’s lives have been recorded to encourage you on your single mom journey. There are also, many, many single moms walking the same path that you are on. You are not alone!

If you need someone to talk to, contact me. You are not alone, single mom!

My information for this portrait has come primarily from http://www.stelizabeth.webhero.com/index.html. There are many different websites that give information about this wonderful woman. Some websites differ in some of their information. I encourage you to do your own research.

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elisha and the widow

2 Kings 4:1-7

4 The wife of a man from the company of the prophets cried out to Elisha, “Your servant my husband is dead, and you know that he revered the Lord. But now his creditor is coming to take my two boys as his slaves.”

2 Elisha replied to her, “How can I help you? Tell me, what do you have in your house?”

“Your servant has nothing there at all,” she said, “except a small jar of olive oil.”

3 Elisha said, “Go around and ask all your neighbors for empty jars. Don’t ask for just a few. 4 Then go inside and shut the door behind you and your sons. Pour oil into all the jars, and as each is filled, put it to one side.”

5 She left him and shut the door behind her and her sons. They brought the jars to her and she kept pouring. 6 When all the jars were full, she said to her son, “Bring me another one.”

But he replied, “There is not a jar left.” Then the oil stopped flowing.

7 She went and told the man of God, and he said, “Go, sell the oil and pay your debts. You and your sons can live on what is left.”

As with the story of Elijah and the widow, this passage speaks for itself. This single mom was left with debts unpaid by her late husband. Her creditors were coming to take her two sons away. Imagine her panic and desperation at the moment she meets Elisha.

Elisha tells this widow what she needs to do and she obeys. She believes that God will deliver her and her sons and she obeys. I think that is the lesson in both of these stories. God helped both of these single moms, but they had to step out in obedience and faith. It would have been a different story had they drowned themselves in self pity and refused to believe that anyone, even God could help them.

Are YOU willing to trust the Almighty God to help you out of your situation today, single mom? He is waiting to help you, but you must take that first step in obedience. God will not help us if we sit by and wallow in our self pity. We have to meet Him half way. Are you willing to trust the Lord today? Are you willing to leave that pity party you’ve been throwing and meet God half way?

Reread these 2 stories and make a commitment to step out in faith the way these two single moms did. Our heavenly Husband provided for them, He will provide for you and your children too.

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saint margaret of cortona 1                               saint margaret of cortona 2

I was astonished to find that there are saints that were single moms. I was more astonished to find that not all single mom saints were widowed. Saint Margaret of Cortona (1247-1297) is called the Patron Saint of single moms. Even today, she is a woman that single moms can look up to as an example of a devoted mom and a Godly woman.

Margaret had a troubled home life. Margaret’s father remarried after the passing of Margaret’s mother, when Margaret was seven years old. Margaret never got along with her step mom. Because of her relationship with her step mom, Margaret spent more and more time away from home. The older boys began to pay attention to young Margaret and she liked the attention.

When she was 13 or 14 years old, she met Arsenio, the 16 year old son of the local baron. Arsenio invited her to come live with him, as his mistress. Even though Arsenio had told her that he would never marry her, Margaret felt confident that she could change his mind. The couple lived happily together for nine years. Margaret gave birth to a son. Arsenio never married Margaret.

Tragedy struck, when Margaret discovered Arsenio’s body in the forest, near his castle. He had been murdered. This was Margaret’s darkest hour. It was also the moment she found Jesus.

Margaret and her son found a home in Cortona with two unmarried christian sisters. Two priests were assigned as Margaret’s spiritual advisors and the friars arranged for the boy to study at an academy in a nearby city.

Margaret was admitted to the Third Order of Saint Francis and began to care for the poor. She voluntarily lived in poverty and spent the rest of her life caring for the poor in hospitals, churches and elsewhere. She gave her services freely to anyone in need and often had to beg for her own food.

Saint Margaret is a woman that I look up to as a role model. She was a single mom, but she also loved the Lord, the poor and the lost. She did not wallow in self-pity when abandoned with her young son. She turned to God and He became her husband and shepherd. Saint Margaret is truly the Patron Saint of single moms.

I took most of this information from http://catholicexchange.com/a-patron-saint-for-single-mothers/. There are other websites that have differing information. I did find a website that claimed that the name of Margaret’s lover was never known. There is so much more to the story of this remarkable woman. I encourage you to do your own research and see how great she really was.

Don’t ever think that God can’t use you because of your past. If He can use Saint Margaret, He can use you! If you have been inspired by this portrait of a single mom, leave a comment below and let me know. If you know of other christian single moms through history that I could write about, leave a comment and let me know. God Bless You, Single Mom!

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elijah and the widow

1 Kings 17:7-24

7 Some time later the brook dried up because there had been no rain in the land. 8 Then the word of the Lord came to him: 9 “Go at once to Zarephath in the region of Sidon and stay there. I have directed a widow there to supply you with food.” 10 So he went to Zarephath. When he came to the town gate, a widow was there gathering sticks. He called to her and asked, “Would you bring me a little water in a jar so I may have a drink?” 11 As she was going to get it, he called, “And bring me, please, a piece of bread.”

12 “As surely as the Lord your God lives,” she replied, “I don’t have any bread—only a handful of flour in a jar and a little olive oil in a jug. I am gathering a few sticks to take home and make a meal for myself and my son, that we may eat it—and die.”

13 Elijah said to her, “Don’t be afraid. Go home and do as you have said. But first make a small loaf of bread for me from what you have and bring it to me, and then make something for yourself and your son. 14 For this is what the Lord, the God of Israel, says: ‘The jar of flour will not be used up and the jug of oil will not run dry until the day the Lord sends rain on the land.’”

15 She went away and did as Elijah had told her. So there was food every day for Elijah and for the woman and her family. 16 For the jar of flour was not used up and the jug of oil did not run dry, in keeping with the word of the Lord spoken by Elijah.

17 Some time later the son of the woman who owned the house became ill. He grew worse and worse, and finally stopped breathing. 18 She said to Elijah, “What do you have against me, man of God? Did you come to remind me of my sin and kill my son?”

19 “Give me your son,” Elijah replied. He took him from her arms, carried him to the upper room where he was staying, and laid him on his bed. 20 Then he cried out to the Lord, “Lord my God, have you brought tragedy even on this widow I am staying with, by causing her son to die?” 21 Then he stretched himself out on the boy three times and cried out to the Lord, “Lord my God, let this boy’s life return to him!”

22 The Lord heard Elijah’s cry, and the boy’s life returned to him, and he lived. 23 Elijah picked up the child and carried him down from the room into the house. He gave him to his mother and said, “Look, your son is alive!”

24 Then the woman said to Elijah, “Now I know that you are a man of God and that the word of the Lord from your mouth is the truth.”

This story speaks for itself. God loves the widow/single mom. Not only did God provide flour and oil so she and her son could eat, He also brought her son back to life. This woman knew who God was and obeyed when He told her to feed Elijah and God rewarded her obedience.

God can and will do the same for you today, single mom. It doesn’t matter what your situation is, God loves you and is always ready to provide for you and your children. Obey God’s leading and He will work a miracle when the flour and oil run out.

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single mom hand

My life as a single mom began with the bang of the gavel, in a quiet courthouse room on August 9, 2000. My life has been anything but quiet since then!

We had 4 kids at that time. The kids and I stayed in our home until I was accepted for Section 8 through our local Housing Authority. We moved into our own home in March of 2001. I was going to school full-time, working part-time and taking care of 4 kids 7 and under. I received a shock that same month that I was pregnant! It shouldn’t have been a shock. I was still involved with my ex-husband and was struggling to let go. The announcement that we were having another child was the end of our intimate relationship. He moved on with another woman and I was left with anger, depression, bitterness, hatred, fear, etc. You name it, I felt it! We still remained friends and he has been the family and support group that I did not have otherwise. My family lives in California and we live in Indiana. I was terrified of being left alone with 5 children. My ex-husband has always been determined that we would remain family. I have been blessed in that respect. Our oldest had just turned 8 when our youngest was born.

There were several times when my fear and anger consumed me and I behaved in ways that I hope I wouldn’t have otherwise. I attacked this woman physically 4 or 5 different times. These are not times that I am proud of. I set a horrible example for my children and certainly was not the example of Jesus to the world that I want to be. Fortunately, these were the early years and I’ve grown up since then.

I remember times when I just wanted to crawl in bed and never come out. My loneliness caused me to find comfort and support from a married co-worker. It never progressed passed an emotional affair, but it was still an affair. I knew it and God convicted me of it. I finally found another job and cut ties with this man.

I worked 20 hours a week, went to school full-time, took care of the household duties, and raised 5 children. I lived in poverty. I struggled to make ends meet, but they did meet. I was on section 8 and food stamps, but we had shelter and food. I can’t say that I was always faithful about tithing, but I did my best and God blessed us. I very rarely had to buy new clothes for the kids. When one needed clothes, clothes would show up in the way of friends or simply sitting on the porch from an anonymous benefactor. I shared vehicles with my ex-husband, because we always had vehicles breaking down.

13 years later, I am still a single mom and grandma. I have lived with my ex-husband and his now wife (the same woman I had attacked; we are now best friends, believe it or not!) since 2008 when our rental was sold unexpectedly. This arrangement has provided security for the kids. They have 3 adults that love them and support them. I was able to attain my Associates Degree in Human Services. I have a job that I like and am moving forward in starting a ministry for single moms.

This arrangement has been beneficial for us. I am still a single mom though and am feeling the need to stretch my wings and get my own place with my 4 children that are still at home. I have a feeling that God is working on opening some doors for us and I am really excited to see what is around the corner.

Through it all, God has been there. He has been my provider, my healer, my protector, my peace. I would not be here if it was not for my heavenly husband. I rest in His arms and I know I am safe. If you are struggling as a single mom and don’t know where to turn, contact me. I would love to help you navigate the waters of single motherhood. God loves you single mom!

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