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Overcoming Temptation

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1 Corinthians 10:13

13 No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.

There are many temptations in life. Everyday we are faced with temptation. Eating that piece of chocolate cake, when you are a diabetic. Cheating on that algebra exam. Having an affair with a married man. Drugs, Alcohol, sex, lying, stealing, physical violence against someone, all temptations that lead to sinning against God. God does not want us to be separated from Him. The above verse teaches us 3 things about dealing with temptation:

  1. No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. If you think you’re the only one dealing with temptation, your not. It started with Eve in the Garden of Eden and it continues today. No one on this earth is free from temptation. You are not alone.
  2. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. I don’t know what temptations you are struggling with today, but be assured that God is faithful! You can be victorious! You may not be able to overcome this temptation in your own strength, but you can overcome the temptation in God’s strength. HE WILL NOT LET YOU BE TEMPTED BEYOND WHAT YOU CAN BEAR!!! Call out to Him and He will fight this battle with you.
  3. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. God does not set us up for failure. He does not enjoy watching us suffer. He does not place temptation in our way as a way to entertain Himself. Our heavenly Father loves us and as proof of His love, He gives us a way out. It is completely up to us, whether we take it or not. God offers the way out, but we have to accept it.

This verse reassures me of God’s love and compassion. Sometimes, as a mom, I let my kids struggle with issues on their own. It is how they grow into independent adults, who can deal with tough situations. God is the same way with us. We grow stronger in character when we walk away from a temptation. We grow more confident, not only in ourselves but in God, when we face down a temptation. Also, as a mom, I am always waiting in the wings to step in when needed. God is there to step in and help us deal with our temptations. I wouldn’t let my kids drown in their struggles and God won’t leave us hanging either. I am here for my kids, ALWAYS and God is ALWAYS here for us.

If you are facing temptation, go to God and ask Him to show you the way out. He will. Don’t be afraid to walk away. You are not alone. God is right beside you every step of the way. If you need encouragement or prayer, contact me. God Bless You, my friend!

gratitude

 

Ephesians 5:20

20 always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

In Exodus 16 and 17, we find the Israelites beginning to grumble. They were hungry and thirsty. Instead of trusting God to provide, they complained to Moses and grumbled against God. Never mind, that God had just delivered them from the oppression of the Egyptians by performing miracle after miracle and parted the Red Sea, so they could walk across on dry ground. They had already forgotten what God had done for them. Instead of being grateful to God for hearing their cries and delivering them from slavery and oppression, they continued to whine. Instead of trusting God to make a way, they chose to complain about their current situation. They chose not to trust God for their future. They were forgetting that God had promised them a land flowing with milk and honey.

I will be the first to admit that when it comes to  being grateful, I sometimes miss the mark. I will admit that I do find myself complaining more than I would like. In all honesty, I can be a bit of a whiner. It’s not one of my best traits and the Holy Spirit has really been convicting me on this heart issue. God has done many wonderful things for me. He has always provided for me and my kids. If I know that He has always provided, then why is it so hard to be content in my circumstances? Why do I find it so hard to trust God for today and tomorrow? Why is it so hard for me to give thanks in EVERY situation? I guess the simple answer is that I am human and it is in my nature to want to know that everything will work out. It is in my nature to want to control the outcome. It is in my nature to want to change my circumstances and fix my problems on my own and in my own timing and when I can’t, I whine and complain like a child.

If I look around me today, I see that I have a house with heat. I have food in the cupboards. I have 5 AMAZING kids who will do great things. I have 2 grandchildren, who are the light of my life. I have a job that pays the bills. Is everything perfect? No. Life can be tough. I struggle, but I choose to trust God for the future. I choose to be content in my circumstances and know that God has a plan for my future.

How do you deal with tough circumstances in your life? Do you whine, grumble and complain like the Israelites, or do you choose to trust God with the future? Are you content in your circumstances? Can you give thanks, even when things are tough? My challenge to you is to reflect on your life right now and find 5 things that you can give thanks for. Make it a habit to give thanks in EVERY circumstance. Choose to be content with the way your life is, right now. Choose to trust that God has a plan for your future.

 

 

blessed

 

Ruth

I’m sure Ruth was not perfect, but unlike the other women listed in the genealogy of Jesus, we only see the goodness that was Ruth. We see that Ruth was obedient, compassionate, and had a servant’s heart toward her mother-in-law Naomi. She seemed to be the picture perfect daughter-in-law. Ruth seems to be the epitome of what a christian woman should be like.

If we pay close attention to the story of Ruth, we will find that Ruth dealt with her share of trials and struggles in life. First of all, when we meet Ruth, she has recently become a widow. She is grieving the loss of her husband and is facing an uncertain future.

Naomi urges Ruth and her sister-in-law Orpah to return to their own families to remarry among their own people, the Moabites. Orpah returns to the home of her family, but Ruth refuses to leave Naomi. Naomi and Ruth return to Israel, where Ruth is a foreigner. It must have been hard for Ruth to live as a stranger among the Israelites. She must have been homesick and lonely. When I was a teenager, I lived in the foster care system in Los Angeles county. I was moved several times in 3 years. I was homesick. It was hard to fit in in each new foster home/placement. How do you fit in with people who already have a relationship with each other? It was a lonely time and I can imagine how hard it must have been for Ruth.

As hard as it had to have been, Ruth responded to the situation with a true servant’s heart. She could have whined about her circumstances. She could have complained that things weren’t fair. She didn’t whine. She didn’t complain. She was obedient and compassionate. Her loyalty toward Naomi was evident and God blessed her abundantly because of her attitude.

I need to exhibit more of Ruth’s character in my own life. When facing my own trials and struggles, I tend to whine and complain. I try not to, but before I know it, I am whining about this or complaining about that. I need to be more obedient, more compassionate, and more willing to act with a servant’s heart. Instead of boo hooing over the tough situations in life, I need to face the challenges with joy and gratitude, as Ruth did.

What situation or circumstance are you facing right now that you find yourself complaining about? In what way can you be an example of Ruth in your situation? How might this help the situation? Could it change the outcome of the situation to a more positive one than complaining will?

Sometimes we can change negative circumstances into positive ones simply by facing them as Ruth did. Take the trials in your life and turn them into blessings, by facing them with a Ruth attitude. Let me know if there is anything I can pray through with you. I am here, friend. I am always available to encourage you in difficult times and pray through those times with you. God Bless!

freedom isn't free

 

For a military mom, the worry starts as soon as your child announces they want to enlist in the military. At least, it was that way for me. I was able to put it in the back of my mind though, until I saw her walk down that hotel hallway, the tears streaming down her face and mine, knowing that she was scared and yet, so very courageous. We watch our children walk away, out of our loving arms and into the unknown. We wait, checking the mail box several times a day, for a letter, letting us know how our child is. Are they doing okay? We feel the homesickness in their words, but also, feel the maturity and strength as they grow into military men and women. We greet them in anticipation at Basic training graduation, not knowing what to expect. We again say “See you later” not knowing when we will see our child again. We encourage them during tech school when they call home in tears because they have been “washed back” and just aren’t getting it. We choke back the tears because we don’t want to upset them more. We know for now they are safe. Then they arrive at their first duty station. Some are stationed stateside and some in other countries. The worry really kicks in now, because we know that after a few months of training that they will be ready to be deployed. When will we see our child again? Will we see our child again? We pray day and night for their safety and for the safety of all of our service members, regardless of what branch they serve in.

I am an Air Force mom. My daughter just celebrated her 21st birthday at tech school. I know that my time will come when I have to face her deployment. I know that I am not alone in this. I have already been so encouraged by the love and support of my Wing Sisters. Those moms who have watched and prayed as their child leaves for their 3rd or 4th deployment. As the world becomes a scarier place and we see the evil of men, we worry and we pray.

Our military members aren’t always appreciated the way they should be. They are undervalued and dismissed by society. Their sacrifice and the sacrifice of their families often goes unrecognized. Our children aren’t just going off to college. Our children are going off to fight for the freedom of the United States of America. They are going off to become Freedom Fighters so that we can still live the way that we have become accustomed to living. They often go years between visits with their families. They miss birthdays, holidays, weddings, graduations and the births of their children. They are told when to get up, when to go to bed, when they can leave base and what to wear. They sacrifice so that the rest of us remain safe.

As a military mom, I am asking christian Americans to get down on your knees and start praying for our military members. Pray for those serving our country in the Marines, Coast Guard, Air Force, Army and Navy. Pray for the protection of the United States. Pray for the transformation of this great country.

If you aren’t one to pray, then support our troops by sending care packages, letters and good will. If you live near a USO, then volunteer your time. If you live near a base then adopt a service member that may be going through a tough time. Adopt a veteran who has served and who may need some help and encouragement now. Reach out to the families of our fallen heroes. There are things we can all do to support our troops. If these young men and women are brave enough to sacrifice their lifestyles and even their lives to protect us, then the least we can do is show them how much we appreciate their sacrifice.

I challenge you to find a way to reach out and support our military men and women. They deserve so much more than we can ever give them.

 

 

The Reluctant One: Moses

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As Christians, we are here to glorify God and reach those in our sphere of influence with the Gospel. In order to fulfill that purpose, God has placed a special call on each one of our lives. A special population that we are to go to and share Jesus with. Some are called to be marketplace missionaries. Some are called to witness to those in foreign lands and some are to share Jesus with a special population, such as foster kids, immigrants, women, men or even single moms. I have been called to share the love of Jesus with single moms. I don’t know the specifics of my calling yet, honestly, I have felt afraid of this calling and as much as I try to manipulate it, I am terrified of it.

I identify with Moses as He stands before God at the burning bush (Exodus 3:1- Exodus 4:17). In verse 3:11, Moses says to God, “Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?” I have had the same argument, “Lord, I am no one. I am not an expert on single moms. I am not a book author. I am a nobody. I am not equipped for this calling.”

In verse 4:1, Moses voices another concern to God, “What if they do not believe me or listen to me and say, ‘the Lord did not appear to you’?” I have had a similar exchange with God, “what if they don’t listen to me? What if they ask me questions that I can’t answer? What if they don’t believe how great you are?”

In verse 4:10, Moses again questions God, “Pardon your servant, Lord. I have never been eloquent, neither in the past or since you have spoken to your servant. I am slow of speech and tongue.” WOW! How I identify with Moses on that one! My own persistent exchange has sounded much the same, “Lord, you know I suffer from social anxieties. You know I get tongue tied when expected to speak and my brain and tongue disconnect. You know that I can not speak like these professional speakers who do this for a living. I will stand there speechless and my face will turn red from embarrassment.”

And in verse 4:13, Moses really angers God in his last ditch effort to get out of God’s call on his life, “Pardon your servant, Lord. Please send someone else.” Yep, almost word for word my own plea, “I can’t do this. Please send someone else.”

I know from the persistent tugging at my heart, that God is not going to let me out of it and He has answered my concerns in much the same way that He answered Moses. “You are my child. You  are a single mom with 15 years experience. You have a heart for me and a desire to do my will. You have your own testimony of my goodness towards you and your children. Do not concern yourself with whether they listen or not, simply share your own story of how I have worked in your life and I will take care of the rest. Let them see Jesus in the life you lead and I will work out everything else. You have more courage than you know. People will listen to you. I will open the hearts of my people towards single moms simply because you have walked in obedience. I will give you the words. I will equip you. I will pave the way before you and I will walk with you. I will never leave you.”

Do not ever think that you are not good enough to fulfill God’s purpose for your life. You are good enough, just as you are. God uses the broken, slow of speech, poor, awkward person to fulfill His will. Step out in faith. Make a move today towards the goodness and blessing that God has waiting for you. Step out in obedience and see if God doesn’t show up in miraculous ways.

As for me, I am just waiting to see what my next step is. I can’t wait to see what God has in store for me! I can’t wait to see what God has in store for you! Let me know how God has used you and let me know how I can pray for you. God Bless!

 

 

When Things Break Down

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Well, I am officially without a car. Someone put oil in where my transmission fluid goes and my transmission locked up on me Monday night. As a single mom, with a full-time job and no car, this is a blow. I can’t afford another car until I get my tax refund. I can’t afford a down payment or a monthly payment on one. I also, don’t like asking for help and having to depend on my 22 year old daughter to drive me to work.

This is definitely a test of faith. I have to trust God to work this out. I feel in a way that He is stripping me of some important things and maybe that is so that I will grow in my dependence on Him and depend less on the people around me. I feel that God is preparing me for an important ministry and He is molding my character to fit this role.

There is something that I want to do. A secret desire that I am praying about. Do I dare speak it aloud? My deepest desire is to be a missionary to single moms. To be able to minister full-time to single moms and to encourage the faith-based community to start more ministries for single moms. So, this loss of my car seems to be a test in faith. Do I trust God to provide for us no matter what? Can I let go of my need to control everything a let God be God? Can I let go of my need to have a “stable” income and trust God to provide what we need? It is scary, but I am so ready for this. I am so ready for God to open up the doors and allow me to minister to single moms where they are. Feeling out of control can be scary, but I guess it is when we feel out of control that we are more able to surrender our lives to a God that is completely in control.

I will continue to pray for a car and for this missionary opportunity. I will of course, keep all of you up to date. God Bless!

Pleasing God…Not Men

Pleasing God

 

Galatians 1:10

10 Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.

I have always been a people pleaser. I have always been sensitive to criticism, even constructive criticism. I find myself living and working so that others will not find fault with what I do. I don’t like confrontations. I don’t like when other people are upset with me. This is my personality. It isn’t a bad thing to want to do my best, but it becomes a bad thing when the reason I want to do my best is for the approval of people and not for the approval of God. I have found that even when I do my best, I will not please everyone. Someone will be dissatisfied or upset by what I do. I would take so much pressure off of myself if I just focused my efforts on the things that please God. God is the only one that really matters. If I do what is right in God’s eyes, nothing else really matters.

Do you work to please man or God? Do you live to please man or God? Do you make decisions based on the opinions of man or God? The next time you have a decision to make, instead of asking yourself if so and so will approve, ask yourself if God will approve. You can take so much stress off of yourself by focusing on what God wants of you. Don’t worry about pleasing mom and dad, boyfriend, friends, or bosses, if it isn’t what God would want for you then don’t do it.

I know it is hard to deal with the disappointment or anger of loved ones, but challenge yourself this next week and only do what God would approve of and see if you aren’t blessed in the process.

God is

It has been 15 years since my divorce. I am happy to say that I have grown in those years. I’m not perfect and I don’t always act like the “perfect” Christian woman. I am not the best mom, employee, ex-wife, daughter, or even the best nana. I am simply a woman doing my best. I am simply a single mom trying to raise my kids to love God and each other. It isn’t always easy. I sometimes feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders. There are times when I feel disconnected from God, abandoned to deal with life’s trials on my own. It is in those times that He shows up and shows me who He really is:

  1. Heavenly Husband (Isaiah 54:5)- In the first few years after my divorce, I threw quite a pity party for myself. Why did EVERYONE else have someone, but me? What was wrong with me? My husband didn’t want me after 7 1/2 years of marriage and no one else did either. God spoke to my heart and called me to Himself. I realized that there was not a man on this earth who could fill that hole in my heart. Only God could fill the empty hollows of my heart. It was at that time that I made a commitment to God. I made a commitment to only worry about growing in my relationship with Him, after all, this was the only relationship that really mattered. I have been faithful in that promise and God has been faithful as my Heavenly Husband. Don’t worry about finding your “soul mate” or “Mr. Right”. Don’t chase your tail, wasting your precious time on unworthy guys. The most important thing you can do is grow your relationship with God. Grow closer to God and then Mr. Right might find his way to your door or maybe God has simply called you to Himself.
  2. Provider (Matthew 6:26)- As my kids were growing up, I worked part-time jobs. I felt very strongly that my first job as a single mom was to be at home with my kids. In those years, God always provided. For years, when the kids were growing up, every time one of them would grow out of their clothes, some one would call with clothes that fit that child. Other times, bags would appear on the porch full of clothes that fit the child in need. We have never gone without our basic needs. I have struggled with keeping cars going, but God has always seen to it that we get from point A to point B. We have never been without food. Even at Christmas, we have had more than enough. I have always felt secure knowing that the God of ALL resources is looking out for me and my kids and will provide what we need. Take your needs to God and trust that He will provide for you. Worrying yourself sick is not doing you or your kids any good. Allow God to be God in your life. Remember, He has access to ALL the resources on earth and will use them to provide for you. Trust Him!
  3. Healer (Jeremiah 30:17)- The first few years after my divorce were hard. I was devastated. I sank into the pit of despair and could not see the light. It has taken some time, but God has healed me of the wounds. There are still times when things get to me. I am human and I have a sensitive heart. In those times, I feel the comforting arms of my God wrapped around me, letting me know that everything will be okay. I am okay. I can feel the emotion and then I let it go. The hurt and anger doesn’t have the hold on me as it once did. Healing is a process and can take years. Allow God to wrap you in His comforting arms. Allow Him to heal your broken heart. He is waiting single mom. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and open to the ONE who truly cares.
  4. Compassionate (Psalm 103:8)- Through the years I have felt like no one cares. I have reached out for help and was met by a slammed door. Even Christians can be judgemental and unwilling to help. When I felt like there was nowhere else to go God met me where I was. I didn’t have to bang the door down to get Him to help me. God in His compassion saw me and helped me. He saw me in my pain and came to me. He heard my cries for help and He answered my prayers. God is a God of compassion and He sees your tears. He hears your cries. He knows your pain. In His compassion, He will help you. When the people around us fail, God never will.
  5. Redeemer (Job 19:25)- MY REDEEMER LIVES!!! HIS NAME IS JESUS!!! God’s will is that we ALL be saved and that none should see the fires of Hell. Our ever loving and compassionate God sent His one and only Son to die a horrible death so that you and I should have eternal life with Him in Heaven. I can’t even imagine what it would feel like to lose a child. To have a child suffer and die would be beyond heartbreaking. If God is compassionate and is capable of loving us enough to allow His child to die for us, just imagine how heartbreaking it was for Him to allow His Son to suffer such cruelty. I don’t deserve God’s love. I don’t deserve His mercy. God didn’t care that we are and have always been an undeserving bunch of misfits. He chose to save us anyways. Why? He loves us that much. GOD LOVES YOU SINGLE MOM!!! Open your heart and embrace the love that He freely gives.

If you are a single mom and are struggling in this season of your life, I am here for you. Let me know how I can pray for you. You are not alone. We are in this together!

God loves you, single mom and so do I!

3 Lessons From Jesus

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Hebrews 5:7,8

During the days of Jesus’ life on earth, he offered up prayers and petitions with fervent cries and tears to the one who could save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverent submission. Son though he was, he learned obedience from what he suffered…

If we want an example of how to live our lives, then we need look no further than Jesus. He was the perfect example of how we should live our lives. No, we will never be perfect, but Jesus gives us an example we can strive to imitate. In Hebrews 5:7,8 Jesus models for us three characteristics that we should incorporate into our daily lives:

  1. He Prayed– Jesus prayed. Not only did He pray, He prayed with fervent cries and tears. According to http://www.merriam-webster.com, fervent means felt very strongly: having or showing very strong feelings. Jesus poured out His heart to His Father in heaven. When Jesus prayed, they weren’t just monotone prayers, prayed with a feeling of apathy. Jesus had compassion for the people He met. I can imagine that His prayers were much like a parent praying for a wayward child; filled with deep love and compassion for that person. We need to pray for others with fervent cries and tears. Our prayers need to be filled with emotion. Our prayers need to be filled with that deep passion that Jesus felt.
  2. He was Submissive– Jesus was reverently submissive. According to http://www.merriam-webster.com, reverently means to show a lot of respect. Jesus had a deep respect for His heavenly Father and was submissive to His Father’s will. According to http://www.merriam-webster.com, submissive means that a person is willing to obey someone else. Out of His deep respect to His Father, God, Jesus was willing to do God’s will. Even when we can’t see down the road to what God is doing, we need to respect God enough to be willing to submit to His will.
  3. He was Obedient– Jesus was obedient. Even when facing death, Jesus was willing to obey God, “My Father, if it is not possible for this cup to be taken away unless I drink it, may your will be done.” (Matthew 26:42) It is possible that Jesus didn’t really want to go through what He knew was coming. Jesus knew that God had a plan of salvation and that He must die, for that plan to work. Jesus was human. He had a choice. He could have been disobedient. He knew what was coming and still He obeyed, because God’s purpose is bigger and better than our own. We must live in a posture of obedience to God. Even when the request seems crazy or impossible, we must obey God and trust Him with the outcome. We must strive to ALWAYS put God’s will above our own.

I am challenging you this next week to live in a posture of prayer, submission and obedience. See what happens and how God blesses you because of it. If it was good enough for Jesus, it has to be good enough for us.

Out Of The Darkness

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Matthew 10:26-31

26 “So do not be afraid of them, for there is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed, or hidden that will not be made known. 27 What I tell you in the dark, speak in the daylight; what is whispered in your ear, proclaim from the roofs.28 Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather, be afraid of the One who can destroy both soul and body in hell. 29 Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground outside your Father’s care. 30 And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered.31 So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.

Evil will ALWAYS be found out. It may take years for darkness to come to light, but be assured at some point God WILL shed light on the darkness. Because Satan roams the Earth, we will have evil and darkness. God has overcome the darkness and sent us the light of Jesus to shed light on the dark places.

I want to encourage you, if you are being oppressed by abuse by another person, substance abuse, or any other evil. If you are hiding in the darkness and feel hopeless, don’t give up! Look to Jesus, my friend! Jesus IS the truth and the light! Keep praying, keep believing and trust that God will shine His light on the dark places in your life. God loves you and cares about your life. He loves you enough to have every hair on your head numbered. Do not be afraid of the dark places. You are NOT alone. God is with you and is waiting for His perfect timing to reveal the light in your situation. Never give up hope! No matter how long it takes, NEVER GIVE UP HOPE! God has a plan and a purpose for your life (Jeremiah 29:11).

If you are the one that can reveal the light on the darkness in someone else’s life, you need to do so. You may be the hope they have been praying for. If the Holy Spirit is compelling you to bring someone out of the darkness, you must obey. You may be the only person that can help. Obey the leadings of the Holy Spirit. Don’t think that it is none of your business. God calls us to fight for justice, and fight the oppression when we see it around us. Don’t think that there isn’t anything you can do. Even prayer moves mountains.

We are living in a time of oppression, injustice and evil and we need to fight it where we can. We need to be that light in our communities, our cities, our nation. Don’t leave it up to someone else. Do something! Even if it’s something small, do something. We can never go wrong if we follow the leading of God’s Spirit.

I love these words from Marvelous Light, sung by Ellie Holcomb:

There’s no place I would rather be

Your light is Marvelous

Your light is Marvelous

You have come to set us free

You are Marvelous

Your light is Marvelous

So I walked out of the darkness and into the light.

From fear of shame into the hope of life.

Mercy called my name and made a way to fly.

Out of the darkness and into the light.

Walk out of the darkness, my friend. Our heavenly Father is calling your name and He loves you. He wants to erase the shame of the past and pour His light into your life. Won’t you let Him?